You’ve probably heard the phrase “Perception is reality” a few times.
As correct as that statement sounds, it’s just not accurate. Perception might be reality, but it might not be. Perception might just be the way you view things. Again , perception might be reality, but it might not be reality at all.
Let me show you…
Let’s say I write a big number 6 on the ground. I write it in large 6’ tall letters, using it to denote the number of biological kids I have who have a birthday before Salter, my youngest kid, who just celebrated his sixth birthday, has another- his seventh. In other words, my 6 is laced with numerous objective facts.
For the sake of illustration purposes, you see me from afar and walk my way.
“Why did you draw a 9 on the ground?” you ask.
“I didn’t. I painted a large 6.” Then, I explain everything I just wrote.
You don’t understand. Looking at the number from...
King Solomon said, “The righteous are as bold as a lion.” The flip side, he wrote, is that “the wicked flee when no one pursues” (Proverbs 28:1).
When you get to the place Eminem found himself in that film I referenced in our intro, you can be bold. When you realize your identity isn't found in the great stuff you’ve done nor is it defined by you at your worst, you can be even bolder. You sense a humble, tender confidence swelling inside you- one not based on your perfection or lack of flaws but based on the notion that there’s nothing else to hide. You’ve owned your story.
I remember the days of constantly looking over my shoulder, always wondering when life might come unzipped. Constant anxiety sucks.
When there are holes in your story, it’s easy to hide. You want to hide. The problem, though, is that hiding makes things worse and more tense. Pressure builds beneath the surface. Sooner or later, whatever is inside surfaces....
Last Fall I did something I never imagined I would do: I took a psychological evaluation. A full one. The kind that has hundreds of questions followed by a sit-down interview with a licensed psychologist.
To say it another way, I voluntarily took one of those tests that cost several hundred dollars and can label you for the rest of your life.
Again, I asked to take it.
Here’s why: smack-dab in my mid-40s I effectively averted the typical mid-life crisis by living a few tough years. Most people knew nothing of the trauma and trials I endured, but the pain was there. Every few months I spoke about pieces of my story from the stage at an event where I spoke, or I offered a glimpse inside my world via my podcast or some other venue where I taught. Looking back in the rearview mirror of my life, I realized I’d endured enough to knock someone off their feet and into the grave.
I mean it. The grave.
At one point several years ago. I actually contemplated...
In this talk we take last week’s release a step further (review here: https://www.Jenkins.tv/blog/baggage). I pulled the content from this talk from some info I planned to teach to a live audience re: emotional wholeness…
We’re all multi-faceted people, having various parts to us.
We readily identify with the first four- but maybe not the fifth.
And, we generally OWN and notice the OBVIOUS issue in any area with the exception of emotional issues.
(I spoke more about this in this talk, https://www.jenkins.tv/blog/checklist, where I actually begin with the same point.)
Turns out, though, that you’re only as strong as the weakest link.
Look at it this way: a 20-link chain with 19 links can carry 1,500 pounds and one link that can hold only 15 pounds will never lift more than 15 pounds. Regardless of how powerful the other 19 are, they’re held...
In this talk, I fire the podcast back up- after a long hiatus- and talk about a project I’ve been involved with for the past year +++). A few months ago, we released the book Warrior Hope, which I wrote with the Executive Director of Crosswinds Foundation- a nonprofit that’s been involved in the PSTD + Moral Injury space for 7 years and counting.
Last week we launched a group based on the book- a group currently being hosted at Hoover Tactical on Monday evenings, 6:30pm- 7:30pm.
Here are the main talking points from this podcast.
I’ve heard the phrase “perception is reality” a bunch of times. You probably have, too.
But, as correct as that statement sounds, it’s not accurate. Perception MIGHT be reality, but it might not be. Perception might just be the way you view things.
Let me explain…
You may have seen the cartoon online.
From one person’s perspective the number on the ground is clearly a 6. From...
Emotional Wholeness involves recognizing your emotions, reading what they say before you react, and then responding to the world around you in a healthy + intentional way.
In this video we discuss three important ideas about emotional health… and then we end with the three-point emotional wholeness checklist.
I'll start with the three main ideas and then provide you with the checklist...
Emotional health is a vital component of total health- yet it’s one that we often overlook (or don’t even own in ourselves). We may be unaware of emotional issues.
Peter Scazzero (Emotionally Healthy Spirituality) observes that many Christians walk through life with an under-developed emotional center. He reminds us, first of all, that we are multifaceted people- each of us having various components:
Most of us readily...
The Bible communicates something astounding about Jesus: the One in whom was “life” was deeply acquainted with sorrow and grief (Isaiah 53:3). I’ve had my share of pain; you have, too. Somehow, when we connect with others who’ve been where we are, something resonates and hope is delivered…
In fact, rabbis believed that when a story of redemption was told, the telling of the story carried the same power that was present in the original event which the story references. You’ve seen this happen before…
Here’s the deal. As powerful as it is when we hear that others have been where we are- and that...
In the previous episode of the podcast we talked about the finality of what Jesus has accomplished- that He has resolved every sin issue we have.
“It's done,” Jesus said from the Cross.
Or- if you remember the nuance He added to the famous sacrificial word, Tetelestai.
Accept it, and your free. Don't accept it, and you’ve disqualified Jesus as your high priest and subjected yourself to the bondage of rule-keeping, shadow-chasing, and sacrifice- which can’t take away sin anyway and only serves to remind you of… your need for Jesus and the freedom He offers.
Even after all things are complete, though, Jesus does more. Additional redemption comes.
We read in the Gospels that Jesus continued bleeding even after He died, even after sin was atoned for. Since we know that every place Jesus bled He redeemed something for us, we know that- even after His death- He still claimed more freedom...
If you consider Jesus your high priest, you disqualify the Law. If, on the other hand, you qualify the Law, then you disqualify Jesus.
Sounds strange, I know. So let me back it up, and let’s see if we can find freedom from the rules + chains that often shackle us to religion rather than freeing us TO relationship.
Why? Because these two are in conflict. And, at the end of the day, you were designed for relationship- not rule-keeping.
Sacrifices were made in Israel every single day. Yes, bigger offerings were made at the three larger feasts on specific days (Passover, Pentecost, and Tabernacles), but the sacrificial fire never went out.
According to the Bible, sacrifice wasn't a reminder of grace but a reminder of guilt. It was a reminder of sin for the people (Hebrews 10:3), because it was impossible for sin to be removed by the blood of an animal (Hebrews 10:4).
You read that...
It’s easy to look at our own pain, compare the cause of it to someone else’s story, then think, “Hmm… I’m crazy to be feeling like this over what’s happened to me. I’ve got it better than most people. Who am I to complain?”
True. Someone always has it “worse” than you. There’s always ANOTHER story with shadier characters and darker details.
At the same time, the wounds we feel are REAL, regardless of how they compare to someone else’s. And, we don’t know. How they interpret the pain they’ve experienced, either. Pain is different for each of us.
You see, the things that “knock me out of the game” may barely phase you. And the things that bring you to your knees… well, they may barely be a blip on my radar. We’re different, so we experience hurt differently.
That means this…
First, we should help each other. We’re both weak in some areas and...